On Nerves, Johnny Carson and Self Talk

by Kathy on February 9, 2013 · 6 comments

in Anxiety, Background, BlogHer, Chicago, Communication, Family, Friends, Gratitude, Hope, Journey, LTYM, Molly, Theater, Waiting, Writing

It’s the eve of my Listen to Your Mother (LTYM) Chicago audition.

I feel excited and nervous.

I imagine that I am not the only one in the Chicago area feeling this way tonight, as I know there are a lot of us preparing to put our words, our hearts and our souls out there for producers/directors Melisa and Tracey tomorrow.

Today was the first day of the Chicago auditions and I found myself wondering throughout the day what it was like for those who were there, reading their stories in hopes of being chosen to be part of the 2013 cast.

I remember the first time I heard about LTYM was around this time last year. The cast of the NYC show had been announced and my friend Kir from The Kir Corner had been chosen to read her essay, related to motherhood, on stage later that year, as part of the cast.

I was so happy for and proud of my friend. I was also very curious to know what this LTYM thing was all about. It wasn’t on my radar that there was a LTYM Chicago show last May, let alone that I could have applied/auditioned to be a part of it.

Last year I had the opportunity to speak at BlogHer`12 in NYC and in preparation for my trip to the Big Apple, I connected with some other Chicago area bloggers who were going, including ones who had been to previous BlogHer annual conferences. It was so great to get to pick the brains of BlogHer conference veterans, including Melisa (who I eventually learned was also a co-producer for the LTYM Chicago show).

Then in December I was invited by Coca-Cola via BlogHer to participate in a two-day Balanced Living workshop here in Chicago, where I got to meet and spend time with a lot of awesome Chicago area bloggers, including Melisa and Tracey. I really enjoyed getting to know them better at the workshop, along with the other bloggers. I also appreciated getting to hear more about LTYM Chicago, which cemented my interest and intention to submit an essay to be considered for an audition this year.

It wasn’t easy for me to choose a piece for submission. I narrowed it down to six blog posts that I had written over the past five years. I asked some friends and family, including fellow bloggers, who I respect and admire to give me their input. From there I settled on which post I would submit and worked on editing my piece to sound more like a stand alone essay and less like a blog post directed at readers who are familiar with my story. I am grateful to those who helped me during the editing process and gave me feedback about my piece.

I was very happy to be invited to audition this weekend and have been practicing my piece a lot in preparation. Many thanks to my friends and family who have allowed me to practice reading my piece to them, it helped to get to read it in front of others.

I have always loved performing on stage, since I was a little girl, but my performances were usually dance shows and rarely spoken word. I was in my high school’s dance company all four years and loved the experience of learning the choreography and eventually choreographing my own numbers for our annual spring dance show.

Though I loved dancing in the shows, I would often get nervous about performing in front of an audience. So early on my mom told me a story that she had heard years before about Johnny Carson. Apparently Mr. Carson shared in an interview that he got nervous every night before he went on stage for The Tonight Show, but that he used his nervous energy to keep him on his toes and do his best performing for the camera and studio audience. My mom shared that it made her feel better when she had to speak or do something in front of a large group of people to know that even Johnny Carson got nervous before he went on stage. I found comfort in that story too and have called it to mind many times over the years when feeling nervous about performing in front of people.

In recent years I have given witnesses/talks on church retreats and to my MOPS group about my faith journey, especially as it relates to my path to motherhood. I even tried my hand a vlogging twice. But I can’t remember the last time I was this excited and nervous about performing.

So I ask that you please send me your positive thoughts, prayers and good vibes tonight and tomorrow when I will audition at about 12:30 p.m. (CST).

I am sending my thoughts, prayers and best wishes to those who auditioned today for LTYM Chicago and also those who are on deck with me tomorrow. I am especially proud of a friend who I will be traveling with, who is not a blogger, but saw one of my Facebook posts encouraging others to submit their work. My friend decided to write something and submit it and she too was invited to audition!

I can’t imagine being in Melissa and Tracey’s shoes right now, with their Kleenex box and Hershey’s Hugs and Kisses at their judges’ table, trying to discern not just which pieces/writers/readers would be the best fit for this year’s show, but also which combination of stories will bring forth the most variety and compelling flow.

So tonight I am telling myself, as I told one of my dear blogging friends who auditioned this morning for a LTYM show in another city and also happens to be sharing a piece about her experience as a bereaved mother,

You’ve got this! Sending lots of love, thoughts and prayers your way. I know you will make me and so many other bereaved mothers proud through sharing your story! xoxo

I am also reminding myself of some advice that friends have given me in this home stretch, including Kir, the one who first introduced me to LTYM last year:

Use that nervousness… It will fuel your piece… I know you’ll do just great.


We will all be in the audience in spirit, cheering you on! So proud of you, Kathy!

Thank you so much dear family and friends, for your support and encouragement! 

I keep telling myself that no matter what happens, I am proud to be putting myself out there for this opportunity. It is an honor and a privilege to share a part of my story, being a bereaved and blessed mother, in honor and memory of our baby girl Molly, as well as all the children who have left this world too soon. I am also dedicating my performance to my fellow bereaved and blessed mothers, who are learning a bit more each day how to live without our children who left this world too soon, though they will always be in our hearts.

To everyone auditioning and hoping to be part of LTYM casts around the country and especially here in Chicago, 


{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Marianne February 9, 2013 at 10:31 pm

Good luck! You’ll do great! All your pieces were wonderful.
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2 lostintranslation February 10, 2013 at 3:48 am

Good luck! I’ll be thinking of you and yes, use those nerves in a positive way. You’ll be great!
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3 Hilary February 10, 2013 at 7:11 am

OMG! I am so excited for you… you will knock them dead! Good luck – and I am sending only good thoughts your way!
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4 Jjiraffe February 11, 2013 at 2:35 am

I hope the audition went well! Can’t wait to hear more. I think you would be fantastic for this.


5 Lori Lavender Luz February 11, 2013 at 9:15 pm

Whatever the outcome, you got into the game and gave it your best (as Brene Brown would say, you dare greatly). The result is secondary to that.

Proud of you. Proud to call you my friend 🙂
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