Perfect Moment Monday: On Having Enemies

by Kathy on November 28, 2011 · 8 comments

in Coping, NaBloPoMo, Peace, Perfect Moments, Quotes

It’s the fourth Monday of the month which means its time to share our Perfect Moments from November with Lori from Write Mind Open Heart!


Throughout my life I have struggled to accept and make peace with the fact that not everyone I encounter is going to like me.

I often wish I didn’t care so much about what other people think, but I do.

When I realize that for whatever reason someone in my life doesn’t seem to like me, I find it hard to understand.

I try to treat others as I want to be treated and always have good intentions.

For these reasons, among others, it baffles me why some people don’t love, care about and appreciate me for who I am, the way most of my friends and family do.

That said, I get that sometimes our personalities just clash with others’ and we aren’t going to click with everyone we meet.

I also understand that the different values we have and interests we cultivate factor in to how we may or may not be able to build meaningful, or even just positive connections, with others.

I recently came across this quote for the first time and it has helped me to make peace with having people in my life who don’t seem to care for me:

“You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” ~ Winston Churchill

Thinking about Churchill’s words and making progress in my efforts to accept that not everyone in my life is going to love, or even like me, is my perfect moment for this month.

Does it bother you when you know someone(s) in your life doesn’t like you? How do you deal with it?


Lori from Write Mind Open Heart says that “Perfect Moment Monday is about noticing a perfect moment rather than creating one. Perfect moments can be momentous or ordinary or somewhere in between.” I love the idea of being mindful of and blogging about perfect moments. In the past I have often used my blog more to write about things I am struggling with and though I know that is valid and important for me at times, I appreciate the idea of being intentional about also sharing the simple and very special moments in our lives. Many thanks to Lori for this idea, a wonderful opportunity to focus on what is right in our life, instead of what is wrong. <

Click here to read about and comment on more Perfect Moments (there are links to others’ posts at the bottom of Lori’s blog entry and/or add a link to one of your own.

Thank you for reading. I hope that you have a wonderful week and that you are aware of, as well as able to notice, many perfect moments in your own lives.

Lastly, this week we are doing the Time Warp again here on my blog and I would love for you to join us!

Click here to read more about Time Warp Tuesdays, find out this week’s topic and get your posts ready (if you haven’t done so yet) for this blog hop/writing exercise.

I hope to see you back here tomorrow and I look forward to “doing the Time Warp” with you!

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

1 HereWeGoAJen November 28, 2011 at 10:35 am

Mostly, I find it amusing, because seriously, who doesn't like ME? 😉


2 Lavender Luz November 28, 2011 at 12:03 pm

That's a wonderful quote. Very helpful as I, myself, work through something similar. Not trying to change the other person, but trying to choose my own reactions to the situation.

FWIW, *I* think you are wonderful, Kathy! XOXO


3 Esperanza November 28, 2011 at 4:43 pm

It used to really bother me when people didn't like me but after a while I got over it. I mean, I don't like some people, how can I expect people to like me. And as your quote so eloquently puts it, if we stand up for what we believe in we're bound to create some dissension somewhere.

Also, being a middle school teacher you have to have very thick skin. I think eight years of teaching has helped me get over caring so much what others thing about me.


4 Jewels November 28, 2011 at 5:24 pm

I don't have very thick skin. I try not to care, but I do-even with my blog. I worry that people won't like it or will criticize it. I love that quote. It makes me realize it's ok if someone doesn't like me (or my blog).


5 Ann November 28, 2011 at 6:14 pm

Gosh, very much! Honestly, I try and bury it and think about happy thoughts!!!


6 Kate November 28, 2011 at 9:05 pm

It is always hard for me when people don't like me…makes me feel like a middle schooler all over again. Maybe someday I'll grow up!


7 Kristin November 28, 2011 at 10:13 pm

I'm glad you were able to find peace of mind and a little bit of perfection in that quote. I know it bothers me horribly when someone doesn't like me but I've gotten really good at not showing it.


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