Today it has been six months since Molly was born and went to Heaven. It won’t be long now before I will have not been pregnant longer than I was pregnant with our baby girl. Though I would much rather be holding my daughter in my arms right now than be sharing this news, I am happy to tell you that after exercising regularly and watching what I ate over the past six months, I am back to my pre-pregnancy weight. This is a big deal to me as it has been something that I have worked very hard at and has been healthy for me, both physically and emotionally, to focus on over the past six months.
As in previous months on the 17th, I am taking time today to honor the memory of our daughter and Sean’s baby sister through sharing with you about special things that help me to continue to remember and feel connected to our baby girl. This month I am going to tell you about the thoughtful and generous gifts of “memorial jewelry,” most of which I received soon after Molly was born and died, that some of our friends and family members have given me to wear. As many of you know, for the first few months after Molly died I wouldn’t go a day without wearing at least one piece of this special jewelry, as they helped me to feel closer to my daughter’s spirit. Most days I still wear at least one of the beautiful pieces of jewelry that help me to honor our baby girl’s life and legacy.
One of the family members we bought a necklace for is Bob’s brother’s wife/our sister-in-law for her 30th birthday. Since then our sister-in-law and I have both gone on to purchase more necklaces with birthstone rings for family and friends. We have yet to be able to find them online anywhere, so each time we want to order more, we call the manager of the gift shop where Bob and I first found them at The Venetian Hotel in Vegas and she sends us what we need. The day before Molly was born our sister-in-law brought over a new birthstone ring to add to my necklace, it was the birthstone for April in honor of Molly. It meant so much to me to receive such a thoughtful gift and I wear my necklace, as you can see pictured here, now with the four rings often with much pride in our family of four, even though one of our family members is no longer with us here on earth. In early August, when Bob’s brother and our sister-in-law’s second daughter was born I brought our sister-in-law a new ring to add to her necklace in of honor her baby girl’s birth and joining their family. Our newest niece’s due date was just six weeks after Molly’s due date and besides being our niece, and soon-to-be Goddaughter, she will always have an extra special place in Bob and my hearts for being so close in age to how old our daughter would have been if she lived.
Soon after Molly was born two groups of these wonderful women from our original September 2003 EDD support group went in on two separate, yet both very thoughtful and generous, pieces of memorial jewelry for me to honor Molly and our previous pregnancy losses/Babies Benson (that I shared about in more detail in my post on Wednesday of this week). The first gift was this “For-get-me-not” flower pendent/necklace (pictured here on the left) to wear and always remember our baby girl. As you can see it is a beautiful charm and necklace. I wear my For-get-me-not often and get many compliments on and questions about it. I share the story behind it with great pride when people ask and I love its significance. The pendent is also special to me, though these women did not know this when they picked it out for me, because my sorority (Alpha Phi) which I joined in college has two official flowers and For-get-me-not is one of them.
The second gift from this group of my online mommy friends is this beautiful bracelet (pictured here to the right) with alternating light blue and light pink glass beads on it to signify that with some pregnancy losses (as with three of our four) parents don’t get to find out if their baby was a boy or a girl. These wonderful ladies then had the bracelet personalized by having a butterfly clasp added to it and an April birthstone and butterfly dangle charm added to it to honor Molly’s memory. They knew about the connection I feel with butterflies (which began in the echocardiogram room, where we learned about Molly’s heart condition on Wednesdays, where there was a picture of a butterfly painted on the ceiling above the examining table I would lie on) and were so thoughtful in how they chose to include that symbolism in their gift. I also wear this bracelet often, alternating it with my Sean bracelet. I love that it symbolizes all of our angel babies, in addition to/including Molly, which from what I understand was the intention of my girlfriends when they picked it out.
Lastly, yesterday I received a special card in the mail from my sister and her husband, who as I have shared before are Molly’s Godparents, in honor of this six month milestone or her half birthday today. Ironically, my sister had no idea I was posting on this topic of memorial Molly jewerly today, included in the card was this beautiful petite pair of silver hoop earrings with a pink butterfly dangling from each one (pictured here to the left).
I don’t intend to seem materialistic in sharing about these memorial jewelry gifts. I hope that I have conveyed my awe and appreciation for the thoughtfulness and generosity that went into these creative presents from our family and friends. These pieces of memorial jewelry are yet another tangible way that I am able to feel connected to our baby girl Molly with each passing day.