Mail for Molly

by Kathy on July 21, 2008 · 19 comments

in Loss, Molly

The mail just arrived and there was an envelop addressed to Molly Marie Benson. It took me a few seconds to realize what it was — her social security card. They had told us at the hospital that it would arrive in a few months. It is the first and probably the only piece of mail that our baby girl will ever receive. Another bittersweet reminder of things we will not experience with our daughter in this lifetime.

{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Fertilized July 21, 2008 at 12:35 pm

sending you hugs!


2 Mrs. Spit July 21, 2008 at 1:00 pm

Getting Gabriel’s Alberta Health Care Card was so painful.

As was getting his birth certificate, stamped deceased.

I’m sorry, these are such hard things.


3 SommerNyte July 21, 2008 at 1:33 pm

How hard these things must be to deal with. (((hugs))) However, you could choose to view it as recognition from the government that Molly existed. 🙂


4 alicia July 21, 2008 at 3:21 pm

((((hugs)))) I am visiting from ICLW, I’m sorry you have to go through these hards things.


5 T-Mommy July 21, 2008 at 3:41 pm

A big hug for you! 😉


6 bendingbackwards July 21, 2008 at 9:57 pm

Sending you hugs.



7 Jill July 22, 2008 at 1:12 pm

I can’t imagine how hard that was for you. ((Hugs))


8 Shelli July 22, 2008 at 1:45 pm

Coming over from ICLW… but have been a lurker to your blog for months. Thinking of you.


9 Indigo July 22, 2008 at 2:59 pm

How heartbreaking for you.

My grandfather died about 5 years ago, rather suddenly, and I did not get to say goodbye properly. Every now and then I get a piece of mail for him delivered to my house. I don’t know why it comes to my house, and we’ve even moved since he’s died and he never lived with me. Each and every time I believe in my heart that it’s just a message from an angel.


Oh, and I’m here from ICWL.


10 Nit July 22, 2008 at 6:12 pm

Hi from ICLW…

I am so sorry for your family's loss! Your baby is so precious!

My thoughts & prayers are with you.


11 Kim July 22, 2008 at 8:22 pm

so sorry, the unexpected reminders have to be so hard. hugs. iclw


12 Katie July 22, 2008 at 10:19 pm

I am sorry. I can’t imagine how much that must hurt. At the same time, I am sure that it is a small comfort and reminder that she was here, she did exist, she lived outside of your heart, even if for only moments. And what an impact she had on so many people in that time.


13 Sassy July 23, 2008 at 8:56 am

*hug* I can’t imagine what that must be like. I’m so sorry.


14 Echloe July 23, 2008 at 11:23 am

That is heartbreaking. I’m so sorry for your loss.



15 LisaS July 23, 2008 at 12:37 pm

what a week of triggers … I’m a first timer, but I think you need another {{{{Hug}}}}

(routed from ICLW …)


16 Arian July 23, 2008 at 1:26 pm

I’m so sorry. That must be terribly hard to have that just show up so unexpectedly like that.



17 emilythehopeless July 23, 2008 at 1:27 pm




18 THE BLUEST BUTTERFLY July 23, 2008 at 11:03 pm

I am sorry to hear this…pleased to meet you and sorry to hear this.


19 Kymberli July 23, 2008 at 11:36 pm

This struck me as painfully difficult. It’s just a little card of paper, but it represents so much unfulfilled promise.

Always thinking of you.


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