If you watched the Oscars last night, hopefully you got to hear The Imitation Game screenwriter Graham Moore’s moving acceptance speech. I love this excerpt from an Entertainment Weekly (EW) article about Moore and his speech today:

Backstage, Moore addressed what it was like for him to be so personal in front of a global audience. “The cameras are little black circles,” he said. “It’s not like a billion people out there when I’m looking around. It was really hard, but it felt, I’m a writer. When am I ever going to be on television? It was my 45 seconds in my life to get on television. I felt like I might as well use it to say something meaningful.”

If you missed the Academy Awards or Moore’s speech, there is a video of it, embedded in the EW article.

I love that Moore thought about how he could best use that time, to make a difference, if given the chance.

If you had 45 seconds to say anything to over a billion people, via television, at an event such as the Oscars or the Super Bowl. What would you say?

I am participating in my friend Mel’s writing exercise/blog hop called #MicroblogModays for the first time. Click on the hashtag to learn more about it, participate, and/or read other Microblogs for this Monday.

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We started watching Grey’s Anatomy not long after I came home from the hospital in April 2008. It was already four seasons in and somehow we’d never seen a single episode. My parents had a few of the seasons on DVD and we borrowed them. It was one of the first TV shows Bob and I ever binge watched together.

I was spending a lot of time resting on the couch, recovering from my c-section with no baby at home to care for. After everything we’d been through that year, dealing with Molly’s diagnosis and prognosis, meeting with specialists, and having to make many difficult decisions about our baby girl and me, we really connected with watching this medical drama/soap opera.

Television shows, including Grey’s Anatomy, don’t always get things right, especially when it comes to facts and how things happen in real life. However, I believe that they often try to bring topics to light that people might otherwise not be exposed to, if they aren’t connected with someone who has had a similar experience.

I have been touched many times, over the years, watching Grey’s Anatomy and have shared a few posts here about some of the dialogue and storylines that moved me. Most recently I have been captivated by the story of characters April and Jackson’s pregnancy. As you may know, they received a devastating prenatal diagnosis, which has led to interesting and very real (from my perspective) conversations about what to do and how to cope with their situation.

It brings me back to January 2008, when we found out that our second child, our daughter Molly, had rare and severe congenital heart defects. It reminds me how sad we were to learn about our baby girl’s condition and how hard it was to navigate the rest of our pregnancy, never knowing if we were making the *right* decisions along the way.

We realize now that we make the best decisions we can, with the information we have at the time. And we were blessed and lucky back then to be surround by so many people who loved us and were willing to help us through so much uncertainty.

There are more resources available now, seven years later, than there were when I carried Molly. A couple who receive a prenatal diagnosis that is incompatible with life or life limiting are able to read about and connect with others more easily, who have been in their shoes. No one truly knows what they would do in such a situation until they are living it. And having the opportunity to learn how others have handled similar pregnancies can been so helpful and comforting.

I applaud Sarah Drew (who plays April on the show), Jesse Williams (who plays Jackson), Sarah’s parents (for sharing a similar story with their daughter), and Shonda Rhimes (creator and executive producer of Grey’s Anatomy), for putting this out there. Hopefully it will touch many hearts and minds, as well as show that termination is not the only way out of devastating prenatal diagnoses. There is compassionate care, which is part of the growing perinatal hospice movement.

That is ultimately what my family and I decided to do with our Molly. To cherish the time we had with her during our pregnancy and the little time after she was born and then died. I wouldn’t be the woman, wife, and mother that I am today, if it weren’t for our journey with Molly. I have been able to help so many other families who have found themselves carrying a baby who may not live long after their birth or who have experienced the loss of a child, through writing and sharing my experience here, as well as co-faciliating a perinatal bereavement support group at our local hospital.

If you are reading this and are not familiar with perinatal hospice, please check it out and learn more. As you never know when you or a loved one might be in a position to consider it. I am so grateful for those who introduced us to the concept, which made our journey with Molly more meaningful and our grief more bearable.

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Consistency

February 10, 2015

It’s my word for today. Really, it should be my word for this year. It’s the thing I struggle with most as a parent. It’s also something that I need to focus on more in other areas of my life. From keeping our home clean and organized to my work as a health and fitness coach, […]

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My Comments Are Back!

January 30, 2015

So I realized awhile back (I think it’s actually been a few months or more) that the comments here on my blog were not showing up. I could still see them in my dashboard (behind the scenes) but not on my website for all to see. I was too busy to do anything about it, […]

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Throwback Thursday: Molly Was Here

January 29, 2015

I came across this while looking for my old passport this morning. I believe it was the only piece of mail our Molly-girl ever received. I remember how bittersweet it was at the time. Then a friend pointed out it is another reminder that Molly lived. She was here, if only for a short time. Like […]

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Start Now

January 16, 2015

How is your day going? Mine is going well. I taught Yoga Sculpt this morning and then headed home to shower, eat lunch, and get some things done around the house before picking up our daughter from a play date. However, there are many days that don’t start off like this. You know what I mean. […]

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