Yesterday I was determined to “catch up” on putting away my laundry (i.e. attack the pile of clean clothes that had accumulated on the floor on my side of our bedroom).

I was off to a good start and had gotten about 2/3 of it in their places when I noticed 2 things:

#1 – I was running out of places to put stuff, because my closet and dresser drawers were overcrowded.

#2 – I was also almost out of hangers.

My first thought was, “I need to buy some more hangers.”

And then I realized that what I really needed to do,

Get rid of things… A LOT OF THINGS!!!

Today, while the kids were at arts camp, I was in a good mindset for purging and was amazed at what I was willing to let go of.

The result?!

A ton of empty hangers!

Plenty of room to put away the clean clothes that had piled up on my floor and then some!

And lots of things to donate!

What are you willing to let go of this week?

What do you want to make room for in your life?


My Dresser

20 years ago, during the spring semester of my sophomore year of college at the University of Illinois, this is what my dresser looked liked in the room I shared with two friends, living in our Alpha Phi Sorority house.

You can see that I like pictures, trinkets, and mementos.

I am a very sentimental person.

And I could write a story and/or blog post about at least 10 different things I see at first glance, when looking at this picture.

For now though, I want to tell you about the mirror.

Do you see it, hanging on the wall?

It’s square, pounded silver, with little flowers around it, and has always meant a lot to me.

It is a thoughtful gift that came from one of my oldest and dearest friends.

She died one year ago today.

I had the honor of speaking at her funeral and shared many memories of our childhood, growing up together in Evanston.

I also told everyone that day about this mirror and why it is so special to me.

When she gave it to me, my friend said that she hoped when I look in it that I would see myself as beautiful as she sees me.

Isn’t that an incredible thing to say?

Many times throughout my life, I have looked into that mirror and found the strength, love, and confidence  I needed during difficult times.

What a gift my friend was to me and many others for almost 35 years.

I miss her.

I wish her peace.

I will never forget her.

You are always in my heart, Sam.


Actions Speak Louder

June 18, 2015

It’s not enough. Listening is good. Empathy is admirable. But, we need to do something. I get why it’s important to pick our battles. However, that’s not an excuse to never stand up for what we believe in. Without taking a stand, then they are just words. So what? I wish I had an answer. […]

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What’s Your Alibi?

June 11, 2015

Where were you on Wednesday, January 13, 1999? Seriously. Do you remember? Anything? I was in grad school at the University of Illinois in Urbana Champaign, getting my masters in Leisure Studies (for real, that is something one can major and get multiple degrees in). I am pretty sure I was back from winter break, […]

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What Do You Hear?

June 1, 2015

I was just telling Abby about the voices I hear in my head… Example #1: When I forget to say, “please,” I hear my mom in my head saying, “Say, please, mom.” Example #2: When I say “good,” instead of “well,” when I should have, I hear my dad saying, “Or even, well…” Do you […]

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Gatekeeping (12th Edition)

May 31, 2015

How are you feeling? What are your plans for tomorrow? Welcome to the twelfth edition of my “Gatekeeping” blog series. I shared the back story of these simple and yet powerful questions in this post. It’s been almost two years since we last did some Gatekeeping here. Wow. I can hardly believe that… I was about to […]

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